Changing my Way of Eating for Life

 It's been such a long time since I've posted on this blog. It's been a blog for everything in my life in the past. I read the last post Jan 2018 and realised how much I have grown in that area. I also realised how we build our own food philosophy and plans through the accumulation of knowledge. Not just knowledge about food though. Also, learning about how your own body interacts with food and exercise. 

For many years I knew I had the informational knowledge I needed to make a change. I just couldn't stick with anything. I had hoped that the Intuitive Eating (IE) way of looking at food would help get me over the line. In the end I didn't stick with that. 

At the end of that year (2018) though I had an appointment with the doctors. They put me on to a (free) health coach at their clinic that worked with me over the Christmas holidays. They gave me a meal journal (I hate those) to record all my meals. That in itself made me more aware of what I was choosing to eat. She also recommended I move to a Low Carb High Fat diet (LCHF). This was contrary to all I had read, heard and thought I knew about food. I was cynical. She gave me a website to look up, Diet Doctor. 

I went away and did my research and found lots of information both for and against this way of eating (WOE). I saw that it wouldn't take much to change my current WOE to this plan. I still had the 'treats' (donuts, chocolate, lollies) once a week and I expected a reprimand for them. The coach though looked at my journal each week and said, "You are doing better than I do." This made me feel like perhaps following this WOE would be achievable. I then added in 40min each day.

Contrary to many of the objections to this WOE there are lots of vegetables and some fruits allowed so you can still do 5+ a day. It's just that I was now allowed to have bacon, cream, and keep the fat on the meat so I could eat the chicken skin without feeling guilty. Perhaps this is where the LCHF plan and the IE plan met for me? Now I was eating guilt free.

I joined a gym (hated every minute of it initially) and allowed the staff, posters and regular measuring to help me stay motivated. I went 6 days a week and it was manageable at 6am - walk to the gym, 30min, walk home. I started to see and feel the results. I even became more aware of how food affected my mood and body. Now I realised that my wellbeing was being positively impacted and I liked the change so staying with this WOE was easy. Again, I still allowed myself to go outside of the plan on occasions e.g. special events, caught 'out' without the right foods.

Then

Now

Foods I have made that meet this WOE! Don't miss out!

The freedom that isn't?

Today as I read about the freedom that I am to give myself, the 'making peace with food', I realise that over the past week since beginning the journey of learning how to eat intuitively I have given myself permission to eat each of the foods that I have had on my 'not allowed' lists. With each food, not only did I give myself permission to eat it, but also to eat as much of it as I could in one sitting. One week later, nothing I think about eating has any appeal. I'm struggling with meal times because I can't think of anything I'd like to eat at the moment. I wonder if this is a normal response and how long I might feel like this?

I call it the freedom that isn't because whilst I am free to eat anything I like whenever I like I have lost the interest in the food. I still don't have the sensations of hunger that I need to know when I am actually hungry and I haven't yet discovered satisfaction in food.

Alongside this though I have also spent some time in the last few days discovering activities that I enjoy doing that are helping me to move. I walked to deliver mail and have a relaxing coffee. I have been tidying up the garden and dancing around the house. 

Freedom?

I am looking forward to the freedom that comes from knowing myself well enough to hear my body I am aware that I need to keep a good supply of food in the pantry and fridge so that I can meet my own food needs. Problem I feel a the moment is that I don't know what I 'like' to eat any more. I know the foods I have craved for so long but now that I have permission to eat anything I like and as much of it as I like I don't know what I'd like. Nothing seems to satisfy me now. How do I find the foods that will satisfy me?

So glad that Intuitive Eating (IE) includes warning and information about what to expect. I feel positive about this journey at the moment. I'm aware that there is likely to be times on this journey when I am not feeling so good about it. I know that my dissatisfactino at the moment is a temporary situation and I look forward to the time when I have moved into the space of knowing what satisfies me.

My aim in all of this though is to be more healthy. I know there is a long road ahead and I've got a lot to learn! Freedom does not come cheap even though it's free!

Revelations

Every day I resolve to eat more healthily and do some exercise to improve my well-being. Every day I get to the end of the day annoyed with myself for not doing all that I could have towards being healthier. I spend almost all day every day arguing with myself about why I am/am not going to eat that food or do that activity.

Recently I began reading a book (recommended by the Healthy Food Guide) called Intuitive Eating. I also got the workbook and have signed up for the community. It is a very freeing read. I'm sure that inside it describes the food relationship and inner voice for everyone in there somewhere. For me the biggest eye opener was the statement,

...dieting rules also trigger an inner rebellion, because they are an assault on your personal autonomy and boundaries. 

Tribole, Evelyn. The Intuitive Eating Workbook: Ten Principles for Nourishing a Healthy Relationship with Food (A New Harbinger Self-Help Workbook) (Kindle Locations 618-619). New Harbinger Publications. Kindle Edition. 

I know that it is rebellion that leads to my poor choices. My desire to be in control of me and not be dictated to or required to fit a mold. As well as not wanting to feel deprived.

The book helped me to see that I have been on a 'diet' my whole life. In this case I am defining a diet as being a set of rules about what I can and can't eat (good vs bad food) and how much exercise and when to exercise. Whilst I have been successful on occasions in losing some weight (and on others of just maintaining it) I have generally not felt good about it.

Today, I resolve to give up dieting. I realise that this is going to be a process and there will be times when I am not aware of the diet mentality creeping in but each day I am going to work on using the language of Intuitive Eating.

Food
Am I hungry?
Do I want it?
Will I be deprived if I don't eat it?
Will it be satisfying?
Will it taste good?
I deserve to enjoy eating without guilt.

Exercise
I focus on the way exercise makes me feel especially the energising and stress-relieving factors.

Progress indicators
I know when I am hungry and when I am full.
I trust my body cues.
I trust my food choices.
I feel good and enjoy exercise and food.

To resolve or not to resolve - that is the question!

Every year I hear the conversations about making New Year's resolutions. I've also heard the many people who have chose to shift away from the language of resolution and use 'Goal Setting'. When you look up the definition of resolution though these remain one and the same.

The Miriam-Webster Dicitionary defines resolution as:
a formal expression of opinion, will, or intent voted by an official body or assembled group.

I realised today that my reasons for not making New Year's resolutions was because I didn't stick with them. The truth is though that God calls us to make a resolution daily. 

Ephesians 4:22-23 says,
22You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; 23to be made new in the attitude of your minds; 24and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness.

Also, Romans 12:2 says,
'Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.
Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.'

This makes me consider that perhaps New Year's resolutions are actually something I should be
engaging in. But beyond that is the need to make New Day's resolutions. The continual renewal of my mind.

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What more is there to say?

Was reminded about this quote today,

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

Marianne Williamson

There is a difference between knowing and doing though. Over the past two days I have been engaged in a very confronting course called, "INSPIRATIONAL & INNOVATIVE LEADERSHIP: "LEADING OTHERS" presented by Joan Baker (www.jbaker.co.nz). While I am not currently in a leadership role I was privileged to have the opportunity and am very aware of how much my personal development could benefit from this opportunity. 

It is going to take me a long time to process the things that were shared over these two days and it would be so easy to take these things and spend time processing as an excuse to not act. The great thing is that Joan gave us some very specific tools that can be used despite not being in a leadership role that can help to prepare me for whatever is next. Things that I know already, that I have the skills for already but that my mindset and habits are interfering with. I loved how she also shared with us some resources that we can turn to to continue to get motivation and development for ourselves. 

A couple of things that are sitting at the front of my mind are:
1. The importance of asking the right questions. 
 - of myself firstly
 - of the systems and about the culture of the organisations I am involved in
 - of those I lead.

2. The importance of leading by example.

3. The importance of Health and Wellbeing in leadership.

4. The importance of knowing the 'WHY'.
 - Why are we doing what we are doing?
 - Why is it important?

5. The importance of keeping the 'WHY' in front of everyone.

6. The role of habits/behaviours.

Joan shared the acronym K.A.S.H
Knowledge - you either have it or need to get it to do the job.
Attitude [mindset] - what are the 'truths' that are influencing your decisions? Are you asking the right questions?
Skills - like knowledge, you either have them or need to get them to do the job.
Habits [behaviours] - What do you need to stop doing or start doing to represent the things that you purport to value?

Day 6 and counting

So today is day three of the changes I am making to my food choices. I have to say I am not so keen on black coffee. I am assured that this will change the longer I can go.  It has been a tough few days and I have had a couple of close calls. Especially as plans needed to be adjusted to fit family. I managed to be strong enough to get through the cravings though and with the help of some salted nuts managed to make it through to a late lunch one day.

I was really surprised on day 3 when I just wasn't hungry. Just the thought of eating at lunchtime made me feel ill. So I had to skip a meal.

I watched 'That Sugar Film' today. There have been so many people and sites that have espoused the health benefits of removing sugar from the choices. It is amazing just how many things it is in though. I have been struggling to find alternative snack items that don't contain some kind of sugar in them...argh!

Will keep looking. Hoping our friend Google will help out here. Having already found NZ Sugar Free I am now looking forward to lots of reading and research to find alternatives.

Moving right along! Roll on good health, more energy and clearer skin.